7979爱陪读 阳光总之乌云后 The Sun is Always Behind the Dark Clouds

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Zhi Sheng’s (Pseudonym) parents were divorced when he was very young, and he has been under his grandmother's care since then. They are very close, when he was at home, Zhi Sheng always took care of his grandmother who has walking difficulties. “I can communicate with Grandma, I understand her.”, Zhi Sheng happened to be the only one who understood his grandma’s audible words. After Grandma had stroke, his mother came back to stay with them. One day, the Companionship Class of 7979 Holistic Care Station of Gereja Presbyterian Gabriel, Kluang (Hereinafter referred to as Companionship Class) visited and invited him to Companionship Class. He joined Companionship Class immediately after his mother nodded and approved. 

Wherever Zhi Sheng is, there is happiness. The laughter we could hear from the Companionship Class was his. He always does his homework joyfully, once in a while he would turn towards the teacher, or sometimes he would talk with his friend sitting on the other side. His joyful laughter was infecting the Companionship Class, happiness is contagious. “Zhi Sheng is a very cooperative student, he can influence the rest of the children.” Teacher Li Ping of the Companionship Class commented that Zhi Sheng is optimistic and helpful. At standard 1, he was already affecting the class’s atmosphere, he often volunteered to pray. His grades are good, the teachers had no worries at all.      

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Zhi Sheng in Companionship Class

However, Zhi Sheng's sunshine character took a turn when he was standard 4. It seemed like there were clouds of grey in his heart, his emotional state was affecting the Companionship Class and his relationship with the students. One day, he suddenly became very quiet and emotional, he often threw tantrums and refused to do his homework. “When there is anything that doesn’t go along his way, or someone having a different opinion from him, or teachers did not pay him much attention, then he’ll become emotional, he would fold his arms around his body, no facial expression and shake reluctantly.” The teacher shared with us in frustration what happened in the past, she didn’t know what was happening, Zhi Sheng refused to reply when asked. 

Teacher Li Ping shared that Zhi Sheng made her very upset. “This boy, Zhi Sheng hit me real hard, I was extremely uncomfortable, why can’t I communicate with him properly.” She took the initiative to tell his parents and teachers in school about his condition. Later, I learned to adjust my attitude, no longer insisting on using certain methods to teach Zhi Sheng, but spending more time by his side, while being his study company, I listened to him. This is how the years went by. “Zhi Sheng is an optimistic child, he doesn’t give up but he needs guidance.” All this while, the teacher believed as long as there is someone to guide him, then he would be able to turn out well.    

​When Zhi Sheng goes to standard 5, he “graduated” from the Companionship Class (Presently, the Companionship Class only takes students from standard 1 to 4). “I often see him in school, I always approach him to care for him, his family is also one of the beneficiaries of 7979 Manna Food Bank.” Although he is no longer in the Companionship Class, teachers are still very concerned about his wellbeing. The love the teacher has for the students is relentless, she puts their matters into her heart and grabs every opportunity she has to keep in contact with the Companionship Class’s graduates. 
 
Every cloud has a silver lining, this ray of light finally shines into Zhi Sheng’s heart, and his smile and passion have returned. One day, when the teacher came upon him after he had a few sessions with the school’s counselling teacher, she noticed Zhi Sheng regained his joyful spirit. He no longer frowns, he greets teachers whenever he sees them. The other day, they were like little leaders, assisting teachers to lead other children to participate in the activities.  

​“My ambition is to be a counsellor.” Zhi Sheng has the intention and dream to become a counsellor. In school, he gained the trust of the counselling teacher and was selected to be the counselling group leader. This position has boosted his confidence and ignited his dream to help more people. He hopes that when he grows up he will be able to help more people who need help. For example, helping Kevin (pseudonym), another Companionship Class’s graduate to play lesser mobile games. He knows many people likes him, because he these people has been helping him.   
 
Now, the teacher has invited Zhi Sheng to join their Companionship Class’s activity day. On that particular day, Zhi Sheng and Kevin would be given the approval to attend. Whenever they bump into teachers, they are always willing to chat. Sometimes, there seemed to be dark clouds in his heart, that causes him to be unhappy, but he always remembers as long as the Companionship Class teacher is always around to accompany and listen to him, sunshines will reappear when the dark clouds disappear.    

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自小，智盛（化名）的父母就离异，由外婆照顾他。他和外婆的关系很密切，在家会帮忙照顾行动不便的外婆。“我可以和外婆沟通，知道她说什么话”，智盛说家里只有他知道外婆说什么话。后来，外婆中风，妈妈便回来与他同住。一天，居銮长老会佳音堂7979全人关怀站陪读班（以下简称“陪读班”）老师到他家进行探访，并邀请他参加陪读班。妈妈点头答应后，他就来陪读班。

有智盛的地方，就充满欢乐。陪读班里传来阵阵笑声，是他发出的笑声。他正在开心地写功课，时不时把头转向老师那里，或另一边与朋友谈天。他爽朗的笑声感染陪读班，快乐，可以传染。“智盛是很合作的学生，他会带动其他的同学。”陪读班的丽彬老师说智盛生性乐观、乐于助人。他一年级来陪读班就很会带动全班的气氛，也会主动做祷告。他的学业成绩良好，无需陪读班老师过于担心。

在陪读班的智盛

然而，智盛那如阳光般的心情却在四年级的时候出现变化，好像朵朵的乌云出现在他的心里，影响了他和陪读班老师、其他孩子的关系。某日，他变得不爱说话、情绪不稳定、常常闹别扭和不要做功课等。“只要有点事情不顺他的意，有人与他的意见不同，或者没有受到老师的关注，他的情绪开始变得不稳定，即抱着双手，面无表情、身体扭扭捏捏的发泄。”老师无奈说出智盛当时的情况，她不懂智盛经历了什么事，即使当面问他，他也不愿意回答。

丽彬老师坦诚智盛很令她难过。“智盛给我带来很大的打击，令我很不舒服，为什么我不能跟他好好交流。”她先积极向家长和学校老师反映智盛的情况，之后学习调整自己的心态，不再执着用特别的教学技巧对待智盛，而是尽力陪在他的身边，一边陪读，一边听他说话，渡过这段日子。“智盛是一个乐观的孩子，但他不气馁，他需要正确的引导”。老师始终相信，智盛需要有人正确地引导他，必然能健康的成长。

升上了五年级后，智盛从陪读班“毕业”（目前，陪读班只收一至四年级的学生）。“我常常在学校见到他，会当面关切他，他家也是7979吗哪食物包受惠的家庭。” 纵然没有出席陪读班，老师很关心他过得好不好。老师对孩子的爱是连绵不绝，继续将他们放在心上，也把握机会与前陪读班的孩子们联系。

阳光总在乌云后，这道光终于照进智盛的心里，他露出久违的笑容和热情。某日，学校的辅导老师找智盛进行开导。一段时间后，陪读班老师发现他变得更开心了。他不再皱眉头，见面会跟老师打招呼。那天，他像小小的领导者，协助老师，带其他孩子一同参加活动。

“我的愿望是当一名辅导员”，智盛怀有助人为乐的初衷和梦想。在学校，他获得辅导老师的信任，当选为辅导队长。这身份，使他多了一份自信，也燃起他想帮助更多人的梦想。他想要帮助更多有需要的人，例如鼓励他的好朋友兼陪读班前学生凯文（化名）少玩手机游戏。

现在老师邀请智盛参加陪读班活动日，陪读班举办活动日的时候，他和凯文（化名）都会应邀出席。与老师碰面都会聊天。有时乌云笼罩智盛的内心，令他不快。只要他记得陪读班老师愿意陪他，听他说话，阳光依然在乌云散去后出现。

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