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On a Saturday morning, while children were happily playing chasing game in a room, a mother was standing at the door smiling as she looked at her tall slim daughter who was wearing a black blouse and pants, her name is Yili (Pseudonym).
This year, Yili is standard 4, she had been attending Love Companionship Class for three years, her older sister is also student of Love Companionship Class. They are raised by single parent, their mother works as a saleswoman, she doesn’t have a fix income. Few years ago, the mother moved from another place to Puchong together with her daughters, she applied for school transferred. When the teacher at the new school found out about their family condition, she introduced them to Love Companionship Class. Thus, both of them joined Companionship Class. However, Yili was very reluctant … “When she just joined us, she often threw tantrum, she would get upset from morning till almost lunch time.” Love Companionship Class main teacher in-charge Sis. Siew Mei Ling shared openly. During the early period when Yili just joined Companionship Class, many people felt uncomfortable and disturbed due to her bad temper. When things did not go according to her ways, she would immediately give you a “sour face”, screaming and threw tantrum in class, or she would cry quietly at a corner. However, she would be ignored by the teachers because there were other students who they need to attend to. She would always end up with Ps. Evelyn Ting leading her out of the classroom to calm her down. Fortunately, Yili’s temper “comes like the wind, and goes like the wind too”. When she calmed down, she would quickly put those unhappy thoughts behind her. The mother explained, actually Yili would only showed her temper, when she is at Companionship Class or with people that is close to her. “When this child comes to Companionship class, she felt that she found a place to release her emotion, because she is not afraid of the teachers here, so she would show her temper. This is something very natural. When she is at home, she always shows her temper at us.” Companionship Class teachers and Yili’s mother realized that looking at her present condition, they can’t be hard on her, they resorted not to use physical punishment on her. Yili’s mother shared that usually she would wait until Yili is calmer, then only she would talk to her. Other than bad temper, Yili always chooses to avoid dealing with things, she would refuse to go for classes. Yili’s grade is above average, yet she couldn’t go beyond that point, especially in her very common “zero marks” spelling result. This caused Yili who has strong self-esteem to become very guilty, it had become a tremendous stress to her, this has been the reason that she refused to deal with the issues. She refused to attend school, the mother got worried and sent her for tuition, because of their financial limitation and Yili’s grade was not so bad, so she just put it aside. When Yili joined Companionship Class, the teachers taught her how to control her negative emotions, she gradually decreased her number of temper outburst. Teacher Mei Ling felt relieved, as the duration of Yili’s temper outburst has gradually reduced, she could settle down her negative emotion in 15 minutes’ and then continue to do her homework. Besides this, the Companionship Class’s teacher found a suitable way for her to learn; her spelling grade finally broke the “zero marks” record. Once her spelling improved, she became more keen to learn, and now she loves schooling, sometimes, she could even score up to 100 marks. Being an active child with strong social skills, now she can mingle well with the students in the Companionship Class, and makes lots of friends. Yili loves to attend Companionship Class, she would always share with her mother happenings in the Companionship Class. Other than the weekdays from Monday to Friday, she also attends their Saturday “Grow Up Happily Class” where she learns drawings. On Sunday, she will attend the Sunday School. Witnessing how Yili has grew and transformed, her mother felt grateful towards the Companionship Class for providing room for her to grow. She knows that Yili still has a lot of rooms for improvement, and she wishes that she can continue to breakthrough in every area of her life. 
星期六早晨，室内一片热闹，孩子们开心地玩着追逐游戏。一名母亲站在门口，微笑看着身材高挑、一身黑衣在玩乐的女儿——怡莉（化名）。 怡莉今年四年级，在爱心陪读班三年，姐姐也是陪读班学生。她们来自单亲家庭，母亲是一名销售员，没有稳定的经济来源。数年前，母亲带着两姐妹，从他处搬来蒲种，同时为她们两姐妹申请转校。新学校的级任老师，得知怡莉的家境后，便介绍和提供爱心陪读班报名的链接给她母亲。于是，两姐妹就到了陪读班，但怡莉满脸不情愿…… “刚来陪读班时，她发脾气的时间很长，有时可以发脾气从早上持续到将近午餐。” 爱心陪读班主责老师萧美芩坦言，怡莉刚来陪读班时，因脾气不好，造成许多人的困扰。事情不顺她的意，她马上露出“黑脸”，在课室大吵大闹或者自己默默流泪。然而，每位老师都有自己需要照料的学生，无暇顾及怡莉；最后，总是由陈雅蒂传道带怡莉离开现场，安抚她的情绪。幸好，怡莉的脾气是“来得快，去得也快”。当她冷静后，很快将不愉快的事情，抛诸于脑后。 母亲解释，其实怡莉只在陪读班或家里对较为亲密的人，抒发心中的不快。“孩子来到陪读班，便找到释放情绪的地方。因为在那里，她不怕老师，才会乱发脾气。这是很自然的现象。她在家也时常向家人闹情绪。”陪读班老师和母亲见怡莉此情况，自知不能对她“硬碰硬”，即不会对孩子施行藤鞭教育。母亲说，她通常等怡莉冷静后，再进行劝导。 除了脾气不好，怡莉时常逃避问题，例如不想上学。怡莉在校的学习成绩属于中上程度，成绩奈何无法突破原状，特别时常在听写考取零分。这令自尊心强的怡莉感到很自责、因此产生巨大的压力，导致她逃避问题：不想上学。母亲为此担忧，她曾送女儿去补习班，只是自己经济条件有限，加上女儿的学习能力还不是差到令她焦虑的情况，于是作罢。 来到陪读班后，老师教导怡莉要学习控制负面情绪，怡莉慢慢减少发脾气的次数。美芩老师欣慰，怡莉现在生气的时间越来越短，她能在十五分钟内就消化负面情绪，然后做功课。 此外，陪读班老师帮助怡莉找到合适的学习方式：听写成绩终于突破了“零分”的瓶颈。听写成绩有进步后，怡莉爱上学习，变得喜欢去学校上课。有时会考到一百分呢。原本就性格活泼，社交能力很好的她，在陪读班开始与其他孩子打成一片，结交到很多新朋友。 怡莉很喜欢来陪读班，平时喜欢跟母亲分享她在陪读班的点点滴滴。 除了星期一至五的陪读班，她也在星期六的“快乐成长班”学习画画；星期日，去教会儿童主日学。见到怡莉的成长与转变，母亲感谢陪读班为怡莉提供成长的机会。她看到怡莉还有很多成长的空间，希望她在各方面持续有所突破。 见到怡莉的成长与转变，母亲感谢陪读班为怡莉提供成长的机会。她看到怡莉还有很多成长的空间，希望她在各方面持续有所突破。  Comments are closed.
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